Believe it or not, I'm trying to cut back on the caffeine I am constantly hooked up to for a bit. This is partly because my sleeping patterns are so off lately, I figured I needed to do something to help myself out. But mostly I do this from time to time because when I get back on it, it's just so darn good.
Unfortunately, cutting back leaves me moody and with a headache for a few days. The moody started last night. The headache caught up tonight. So I apologize for any big smack talking I do for the next few days, starting with this post.
I get a kick out of helping newbies most of the time. I'm very lucky that my best SL girl friend is the same way. Cen and I have spent hours searching out the best freebies for newbies, and places they can go, and we have spent a lot - a LOT - of time sitting and patiently trying to explain things to new people. We don't do it to be praised, we do it because we like to help and because we know that helping someone can often lead to making a new friend.
But it's getting to the point [for me anyway - I can't speak for Cen] that I just want to say to some of them, "You're a lost cause. Go on, lil n00b, and find your own way." This mostly comes from new people who have absolutely NO taste, in fashion or in how they conduct themselves. Fashion can usually be easily remedied and isn't a huge deal. Being tasteless in how you act and speak is something completely different.
I keep telling myself to not be a snob. That people are different, and people use SL for different things. It's not just about helping and building and shopping and chatting for everyone. It IS about hooking up with someone they meet in a club for some people. But when I stand there and I'm patiently trying to explain, for the 50th time, how to put on a new skin and all they want to know is how to make their boobs bigger so they can catch the eye of some guy...I just can't help myself. The snob comes out and I just want to walk off.
I guess the question is: How much help is too much help? When someone seems appreciative and cool and listens to me, I really do have fun. And they have fun. Maybe we don't always keep in contact outside of an IM here and there, but I get a thrill knowing that I helped someone become a productive member of the SL society [SLociety?] Is it ok to tell someone that you've had enough and now it's time for them to learn on their own? Is it ok when you've come to realize that you honestly have no interest in pursuing any kind of friendship with someone, even at just a basic level, that you just stop helping? How do you tell someone you're done without being rude about it?
I don't know. I think I am just moody right now. I don't ever want to stop helping new people. In fact, Cen and I went off tonight to go seek out a newbie to help [we didn't find any. No one at Noob Island was new!] I guess I just don't ever want it to get to the point of me NOT wanting to help out because a few tacky people ruined it.