I've been seeing and talking to women in SL who are looking for men. No, not the kind of looking that means they are desperate and they have a burning need to get partnered, or even looking for random SLexual hook-ups. They want men to hang out with, to get to know, and to maybe start dating. The women I know are bright, funny, beautiful people, and a lot of them are talented and are perfectly capable of being independent in SL. But as most of us know, sharing SL with someone else is such a good thing. It really brings another level to SL that you weren't even quite aware was missing before.
So where do these women go to meet men? Where is the island of smart, humorous, and at least slightly good looking men? [You don't have to be all the way good looking. Trust me, these ladies can shine you up.]
And if they're looking, doesn't it stand to reason that there are men out there looking for them?
During the first part of Cen's experiment, we got confirmation on something that we already kind of knew. A lot of men in SL are more likely to talk and hit on a girl if she looks bad. Or maybe bad isn't quite the word. But the tall women with the exceedingly huge chests and rear ends with bad clothing choices and body oil seem to get all the guys IMing them. Granted, the IMs are probably not that good. Let's face it, if someone wanders into a club with her butt hanging out of her Business In A Box shorts, a guy looking to hook-up will definitely IM her to give her box some business. A woman who is well dressed, with a good skin, nice hair, and who is proportionate to her height flies right under the radar. Maybe the guys are intimdated, or maybe these women just look like someone who won't hop on a poseball with them right away.
But these aren't the only type of men in SL. I know that they're not.
I spent the first few months of my SL single, and very rarely getting hit on. Sad but true. It's not that I didn't have guy friends. I did and still do, but very rarely was I their type. Nothing against you guys, I promise, since most of you weren't my type either and that's why we could be friends. :) Around March, I started dating a little bit. I will admit that I am extremely picky about most things. In fact, I think I even had a list at some point of what it would take for a guy to actually get me. One night I was out with another guy, someone that I was dating kind of but wasn't really serious about at all, and we were at Sine Wave just checking out dances. Then out of the blue I get this IM from a guy saying that my profile was funny. Who knew that one movie quote would have led to this utterly amazing relationship that I have now with the most wonderful man in SL? And all this from just walking around Sine Wave.
The funny thing is, the women I know who are in SL relationships all met their men in similar fashions. They weren't at clubs or the "traditional" meeting places. They were walking around a store, or exploring a sim, or helping new people out. None of them were looking for anything. It found them.
So here's the question - um, questionS: If you are in a relationship in SL, where did you meet? Do you think if you'd met the same person in a different location in SL that you'd have gotten together? If you're a woman, do you regularly get hit on when you're in world? If you're a man, what makes you decide to talk to a woman? If you find out that the person you're talking to has skills that you may not, does it intimdate you? Do you think being bloggers has affected your relationships? If you are with a blogger, does it change how you are with them?
Edit: Although I say men & women here, naturally if you are interested in the same sex, please answer the questions as well because it doesn't just apply to straight relationships and dating. :)